have not been on the forum,s ,much as of late ,so thought id just check in and let ever one know what is going on , the young man that my wife and i have raised since he was 2, has been taken from us ,and i can do nothing , his "mother" for lack of better title has taken a fancy to a truck driver from Oklahoma, and has decided to move in, so she has taken Kevin with her , in the last 10 years he has become as much a part of our family as my own children and to lose him with out warning is very hard for me to deal with , i only hope that the fellow will guide Kevin on the right path i have spent a lot of time with him and he has his head on straight but to be up-rooted and taken away from everything could send him in a different direction my worry is that when the truck driver is on a run and the mother is out running the bars who will see after Kevin .i never worried about this before because he had his own room here and stayed with us more than he did with her but now he is so far away i cant help him ,when he left a large part of my heart went with him and i just haven't felt the same and may never so i just wanted to let you all it is just hard for me to spend time on this or any forum with the thought of Kevin on my mind
You've made a big difference in his life. He won't forget and someday may be back. Sometimes life is just not fair, especially where kids are concerned. :'(
That is just plain wrong ! Hopefully he will remember your teachings and live by them and not take another path.
I know how you feel Tom, 30 years ago I lost someone very special to me...and it still hurts to think of him. But, you will learn to cope and enjoy life again...just hang on!
Ned
Prov 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
You have raised him right, Tom. There are things that I am sure you taught him that will sustain him though these trials. He will not forget the family that cared for him. I know where your heart is and I know you taught that to Kevin, as well. It going to be difficult now, but you will be able one day to look with pride on the man that he has become. And you and Robin will have had a strong influence on that man.
This just sux!!!!!!!!!! dont be surprised if you see him back soon!
I know what you are going through, we have had several Foster kids in and out of our house over the years, and every time it has been heart wrenching to see them go back to their mom. But we still hear from most of them, on a regular basis, and they are mostly doing alright. So keep your chin up and try to keep in touch with him, it'll make a huge difference just to know that you are there for him if he needs you.
Colin
Quote from: tom-h on October 10, 2008, 02:47:55 PM
have not been on the forum,s ,much as of late ,so thought id just check in and let ever one know what is going on , the young man that my wife and i have raised since he was 2, has been taken from us ,and i can do nothing , his "mother" for lack of better title has taken a fancy to a truck driver from Oklahoma, and has decided to move in, so she has taken Kevin with her , in the last 10 years he has become as much a part of our family as my own children and to lose him with out warning is very hard for me to deal with , i only hope that the fellow will guide Kevin on the right path i have spent a lot of time with him and he has his head on straight but to be up-rooted and taken away from everything could send him in a different direction my worry is that when the truck driver is on a run and the mother is out running the bars who will see after Kevin .i never worried about this before because he had his own room here and stayed with us more than he did with her but now he is so far away i cant help him ,when he left a large part of my heart went with him and i just haven't felt the same and may never so i just wanted to let you all it is just hard for me to spend time on this or any forum with the thought of Kevin on my mind
tom my friend one day there will be a knock at your door and it will be him you are a good good man tom and that boy wont forget it because he knows where he is loved,hang in there buddy.
bernie :o
Bernie's right, he'll come around. Keep in touch with him. Write letters, send birthday and Christmas cards. You and Robin will be in our thoughts and prayers.
i have written a wonderful update on Kevin it is posted in the bag section it was about two things so wasnt sure where to post it but thank you all everything is going to work out just fine .
Good news, Tom. Glad everything will work out.
Glad to here every thing is ok. I have been a truck driver my self.
Sorry I'm late seeing this post Tom. I'm glad to hear thing are turning for the better. It still must be rough not having him around. May the Lord be with you during Thea's troubled times and give you piece.
Sorry i missed this also Tom, thinking about ya and praying everything turns out ok.
Tom,
Guys like YOU are heroes in my book,that take in a kid and try to raise them up right!
Tom, is there an update on how those folks are doing?